I put this to a group of young ladies today:In a nutshell, there's a dilemma wherein a man and his wife see another man whose car has broken down by the side of the road.
The husband reasons that it would be dangerous and time consuming to stop, with no likely benefit as they'd never see him again but that they could well come to harm if they did stop. and anyway, who was to say they'd be competent to render assistance?
His wife disagrees. She says that not only would he lose her respect but G-d would make a note of it for later reference. Not to mention living with hmself in the future. To stop and help, on the other hand, could well become cumulative, as the man would no doubt do something similar when it's his turn.
One girl reasoned that there'd be no immediate effect but the good feeling would brush off on all three, which would impact further down the track, e.g. the boss would give his workers an easier time the next day and so on.
I asked one young man and he reasoned: "That's his problem, buying an unreliable car."
Does this demonstrate why Women are from Venus and men are from Mars? I guess it wouldn't hurt to stop for a couple of minutes and make sure he has made a call for assistance. I would estimate that 9 out of 10 men wouldn't stop.
ReplyDeleteMight be too risky to stop. Better to cell phone police to come to the rescue.
ReplyDeleteAsk the question another way: if alone who would stop, the man or the woman?
ReplyDeleteIn my life, I have never seen a woman stop to help someone, nor have I had one stop to help me. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but I've yet to see it.
Yes, the divide of the sexes, people. Probably comes down to safety in the end.
ReplyDeleteThere are so many dependencies. If he looked like Freddy Krueger, if the road was well travelled, brightly lit, the weather, what car it was.
ReplyDeleteWe all weigh up risks every day. If it appears safe we would stop.
Although, I think women are always going on about helping but when it comes down to it wouldn't because the risk to them is greater. The men on the other hand would stop as they percieve a lower risk but like to appear uncaring and comment on the car and how he doesn't have a phone etc.