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As one knowledgeable gentleman put it:They doubt themselves now, but they're more interesting and lovelier than ever. They've had their adventures, they have stories to tell. They're knowing, wry, and speak in husky cigarette voices. They get my jokes. They tango, foxtrot, and swing. They make me feel suave, sophisticated, just like they are. I don't get that from young women (Don't fret, young women, you have plenty going for you, and all I'm saying is the best might still be yet to come).
As another put it:
* An older woman can wear any hat she chooses and nobody will laugh. A younger woman wearing the same hat will always look like a lampshade in a brothel.
* An older woman will never wake you up in the middle of the night & ask you, "What are you thinking?" An older woman doesn't care what you think.
* Older women can run faster because they're always wearing sensible shoes.* Older women are more honest. An older woman will tell you that you are an a--h-le if you're acting like one. A young woman will say nothing, just in case it means you might break up with her. An older woman puts herself on a pedestal.
* An older woman will never accuse you of "using her." She's using you.
* Older women take charge of the situation. An older woman will call you up and ask you for a date. A younger woman will wait forever, by the phone, for you to call...
* Older women know how to cook. Young women know how to dial Pizza Hut Take out.
* An older woman will never accuse you of stealing the best years of her youth because chances are someone else has stolen them first.
As I put it:The trick in getting an older woman to look at you is to be ten years younger than you actually are and being prepared to switch to the role of mature escort and confidant at a moment's notice. The great advantage of the older man is that he is a natural rogue and women love bad boys.
I think this is a little unfair on younger women.
ReplyDeleteMy girlfriend calls me an a---hole all the time. And makes me sleep on the couch. She has no fear.
And I know plenty of others her age who are very much the same.
I'm 36, spent 11 years with a woman 10 years my senior, and now I'm with a girl 17 years younger than me!
ReplyDeleteMy ex definitely wore the trousers in our house, but my current gf is a little insecure and seems to look up to me for some insane reason.
I think having a much younger girlfriend has finally made me grow up a little; I used to leave the boring stuff about everyday life to my ex, but now I've finally learned about such arcane things as APR and mortgages.
I still play computer games and get drunk occasionally of course, but the great thing about being with a 19 year-old is that she doesn't nag me about it!
So on the one hand being with a younger woman has made me more mature in some ways but on the other, I can still indulge my Inner Teen and not have her roll her eyes.
Having said that, I still definitely have a thing for older women such as Kate Bush and Nigella Lawson...
I wouldn't bet on the sensible shoes if I were you. Love bad boys, do we? ...
ReplyDeleteJames, comfy shoes? You have to be kidding darling.
ReplyDeleteNo matter how old we get, we are never going to give up our shoes.
ReplyDeleteSecretly I look forward to my mid thirties...maybe even forties. Whoever said that these were the best years of your life was clearly a liar. So far I have found late teens and early twenties to be frought with fear and insecurity.
I can cook though.
The trick in getting an older woman to look at you is to be ten years younger than you actually are and being prepared to switch to the role of mature escort and confidant at a moment's notice.
ReplyDeleteThis IS you down to a t!
What a great post.where are the angry feminists now?
Oh,older women DON'T cook for men...they have more important appetites to take care of...and yes, their own.
ReplyDeleteAll that has bee said here is true and why is it that older men seem to prefer younger women? I have never understood that. I guess only other men get it. Leave sex out of it for the moment and think about companionship and friendship, even with a sexual partner.
ReplyDeleteIt has always made sense to me for people to stay within an certain age range to be most compatible with each other although this age range becomes wider as you get older. As a 70 plus I have lots in common with 50 year olds but as a fifty year old I did not have so much in common with a thirty year old.
I think this is true for both sexes. But look around at your contemporaries you older fellows, they might be past the first bloom of youth but they are a lot more interesting and less self centred than the young ones. Take a chance and find out.
Hm. I know a young woman who is intelligent, friendly, joyful, caring, passionate dancer, having a Dan in Judo - and, ah, her meals and cakes! Well, and I happen to know her mother. :)
ReplyDeleteInteresting stuff - all comments here add to the pool. I wanted to see what Welsh, JMB and Oestre would say too.
ReplyDeleteSM, Uber and the two boys - thank you. Suppose it comes down to the individual. The most assiduous lovers and the greatest companions I had were in their 30s - such a pity because other issues got in the way.
My Heather was 22 and was one of the kindest and most one-on-one you could imagine. I should have married her and slipped into the great vista of marriedhood out there. The girl I'm currently involved with is 25 coming up soon.
Adelya in the previous post is 35 - I know because she is depressed about her age - and she would be close to the perfect woman.
All of this here today is food for thought.
The great advantage of the older man is that he is a natural rogue and women love bad boys.
ReplyDeleteYou James?
And what about the male equivalent of the lampshade in a brothel? And do you wear sensible shoes?
:)
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