The news was reported that:
Quite apart from these figures being highly suspect due to the research being conducted by a firm which markets products for women's sexual dysfucntion, I'm convinced that the majority of problems, such as they are, are caused by:
Women need to step back and think through what they're really trying to achieve, to work in with men in a complementary rather than confrontational or snide way. Then and only then can the decades of immense damage to inter-gender relations be reversed and healed. Otherwise, the current misandry and misogyny can only produce one bitter result.
One good start would be for the new generation of girls to learn the word "no".
[N]ew research shows that 40 percent of women report sexual problems, but only 12 percent are distressed about it.
Quite apart from these figures being highly suspect due to the research being conducted by a firm which markets products for women's sexual dysfucntion, I'm convinced that the majority of problems, such as they are, are caused by:
a. the unrealistic expectations on women imposed by society, advertising, journals and other media and peer pressure through discussion of this guff;
b. the onslaught of feminism which does create a "don't-you-oppress-me", "women-can-go-it-alone" mentality;
c. the natural desire of women to have everything perfect, "just so" and the way men are failing to live up to this ideal in today's society;
d. the phenomenon whereby the more women insist on their rights, the worse becomes the attitude, particularly of young men, towards them. As men are disempowered, so the dislike of women increases, manifesting itself in cavalier attitudes and refusal to "understand".
Women need to step back and think through what they're really trying to achieve, to work in with men in a complementary rather than confrontational or snide way. Then and only then can the decades of immense damage to inter-gender relations be reversed and healed. Otherwise, the current misandry and misogyny can only produce one bitter result.
One good start would be for the new generation of girls to learn the word "no".
Sometimes the men need to learn the word 'No' and accept what it means.
ReplyDeleteYou are right though SOME women are too free and easy and then wonder why men don't respect them.
Yes, young men need to learn not only the word "no" but also the fundamentals of how to treat a woman, no matter how "difficult" she becomes, in his eyes. I've lost a lot of patience myself in recent years and would like to get some of it back.
ReplyDeleteYou focus a lot on what women should be doing, but what about men?
ReplyDeletePerhaps men should be educated in working with women in a complimentary and not confrontational way? Perhaps if women were given the same chances as men they wouldn't have to react in a 'snide' manner. It is a saddening truth that in order to make it in a man's world, a woman has to act like a man. And if that means adopting some of his lesser traits then so be it.
There is nothing more off putting than a woman who takes on the characteristsics of a man.
ReplyDeleteA woman can garner respect if she shows she respects herself first, except from people who lack respect, of course.
Behind every disrespectful man is a woman who failed in her duties- the mother who did not teach her son to respect women.
Women do not help to promote sexual equality when they think the route to go is to drink like men, fornicate like men, bulldoze their way to the top like men and beat their breast like men.
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ReplyDeleteThat was me above, as I would like to comment on this post more succinctly...but won't succeed.
ReplyDeleteThe biggest problem between genders is that people have stopped viewing and treating people as 'people' first and foremost.
James is right in that the Feminists have created a lot of damage to BOTH sexes in their fervent desire to empower themselves by oppressing their oppressors, which all oppressed people tend to do, unnecessarily.
The men in turn build up resentment towards the 'new' and not -so- improved modern woman for now they are the oppressed.
Men are now made to feel aggressors simply for being men. Women have negative self images in relation to what it is to be a woman,therefore wanting to be like men.
The biggest oppressors of women today is NOT men but other women, when they feel the need to compete, backstab and kick down each other.
If women can't bully their way to the top, they will exploit their wown sexuality to get there, thinking this gives them the edge,bitter when they realize it doesn't.
The roles between men and women have become blurred in all this, neither gender respecting the differences which makes the other gender so sought after.Neither quite remembering what it is to be man or woman.
Women have never had it so good in soceity as they have it today, although there is room for improvement, but here on out women now have the opportunity to be and do whatever they want and with that comes accountability if they do not handle themselves accordingly, achieving their goals.
What women need to do is to STOP blaming men for all their setbacks and look at their own actions.
Life is complicated aint it? I guess people will justdo whatever they like in the end, I know my daughter has no sense that anything is closed to her as it used to be for girls growing up...the idea would be ridiculous to her.
ReplyDelete"N]ew research shows that 40 percent of women report sexual problems, but only 12 percent are distressed about it"
ReplyDeleteIsn't it entirely possible that not all problems are actually distress causing?
Bunny - that's exactly what I was agreeing with Uber about - educating both.
ReplyDeleteUber - that's right.
Mutley - agreed.
Lord Nazh - could be.
There has been a lot of sense talked here and it must be how the genders can work together, not whose rights are being oppressed.
there's no dialogue with the latter.
"The biggest problem between genders is that people have stopped viewing and treating people as 'people' first and foremost."
ReplyDeleteI think Ubermouth sums it up fairly well with that sentence. A lot of the problems between men and women is that they are too busy defining themselves as male and female humans, and not enough as humans who happen to be male or female.
Just my opinion.
The largest problem (imo) is that men no longer know what being a man is.
ReplyDeleteThe age of chivalry may indeed be dead; but it lives on in the south and in my family/friends.