But what if you can't compromise? What if it is such a small yet fundamental difference that it can derail the relationship? Sam Brett writes:
While two clutter busters [neat people] are a match made in heaven, I wonder what would happen if either one were dating someone quite the contrary - a total slob. What if they were dating someone who didn't give a toss about how trim the trees looked or whether the soaps were lined up in the bathroom? How would they cope?
The answer is, of course - they wouldn't. But why stop there? What about other differences, such as the air we breathe and the heat we can stand? I'm going to be struck off the lady bloggers' eligibility lists for this but here's an example:
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While this can work to advantage when they snuggle up, what about when you open the balcony door in winter to get some air moving? Horrified, she starts shivering and you compromise and close it, almost. But she still does the shivering bit, so you close it.
Within ten minutes you can't breathe and you have to get out of there, whereas she is as happy as can be. You apologize and say it will only be for a few moments and then rush to open the balcony again.
And so on. It can't work. It won't work. It's fundamental. There goes the love.
I'm not even going to start on snoring.