tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31655026.post5848431585524352246..comments2024-03-29T09:51:23.874+00:00Comments on nourishing obscurity: The Tangled WebJames Highamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14525082702330365464noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31655026.post-35549001297617506992008-03-27T03:54:00.000+00:002008-03-27T03:54:00.000+00:00Thank you for these observations.Thank you for these observations.James Highamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14525082702330365464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31655026.post-19896257648719156952008-03-26T21:47:00.000+00:002008-03-26T21:47:00.000+00:00I disagree, not every person on the internet is fa...I disagree, not every person on the internet is false. Many are.Nunyaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00627939958188041617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31655026.post-1487473709289826002008-03-26T20:48:00.000+00:002008-03-26T20:48:00.000+00:00James, I don't think relationships established ove...James, I don't think relationships established over the internet can be genuine if someone is anonymous and doesn't disclose his or her true identity. But friendships, whatever form they take, should be valued.<BR/><BR/>Your summarisation about me is so true, but you forgot to include my beautiful widowed mother who I adore and feel I neglect due to so many other pressures on my time.Ellee Seymourhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11647480320978146418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31655026.post-38210713919212504232008-03-26T10:02:00.000+00:002008-03-26T10:02:00.000+00:00I believe it is up to individuals and if it works ...I believe it is up to individuals and if it works for them, and they happy, then what does it matter really?Nunyaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00627939958188041617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31655026.post-23026687660275446842008-03-25T20:22:00.000+00:002008-03-25T20:22:00.000+00:00Hmmm.Yes and no.I think we can gain an IDEA of who...Hmmm.<BR/>Yes and no.<BR/><BR/>I think we can gain an IDEA of who we're dealing with in this medium, but I think we can easily be wrong. After all, the first we se of someone, is probably something they don't show in real life.<BR/><BR/>I don't think, really, you know someone, unless you know them in the flesh, see their mannerisms, see their reactions, pick up their body language. And of course, can see their real lives, actually see the way they live and appreciate it.<BR/><BR/>Yes, I think we can make genuine connections here, but they are potentially far more dangerous and damaging than in real life.<BR/><BR/>There DOES need to be common ground, certainly, there needs to be agreement on a common way of viewing life.<BR/><BR/>As for ages, I'm 30 now, and I think much younger than 24, would make me uncomfortable. 22, at a push, if they were reasonably mature.<BR/><BR/>I think internet friendships are OK- in fact can be very valuable, as long as we keep them in context and see them as purely platonic.<BR/>I have come to the conclusion that thinking you have romantic feelings for someone you don't know in the flesh, has to be self delusion. Platonic, certainly, even perhaps very strong platonic feelings, but it can't be any more than that.Crushedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02479751225625007588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31655026.post-54476636221768824132008-03-25T12:44:00.000+00:002008-03-25T12:44:00.000+00:00Nice post. I have discovered in recent months tha...Nice post. I have discovered in recent months that the ending of what you thought was a virtual romance can be just as hurtful as any other kind. But I'm not sure about the honesty factor - anyone can be anything they like on the internet.<BR/>I'm afraid you lost me on the mathematics but I hope you work things out!<BR/>I would never come and "talk" to you here without my perfume and mascara on, James! xWelshcakes Limoncellohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17209759237794290941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31655026.post-65109551553085390472008-03-25T09:58:00.000+00:002008-03-25T09:58:00.000+00:00I meant to say better to figure out if it's import...I meant to say better to figure out if it's important to you. <BR/><BR/>:)Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05220132360280528479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31655026.post-10179440733602816182008-03-25T09:46:00.000+00:002008-03-25T09:46:00.000+00:00Then perhaps you should stop trying to?Sometimes a...Then perhaps you should stop trying to?<BR/><BR/>Sometimes acceptance without comprehension is the only way forward.<BR/><BR/>Some situations are what they are regardless of what we try to do to understand or alter them.<BR/><BR/>Better to figure out what it is to you, rather than wait on someone else to figure it out on your behalf.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05220132360280528479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31655026.post-78028929487742550262008-03-25T09:42:00.000+00:002008-03-25T09:42:00.000+00:00Sigh. I understand it less today than I did befor...Sigh. I understand it less today than I did before.James Highamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14525082702330365464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31655026.post-86931963702843343162008-03-25T09:10:00.000+00:002008-03-25T09:10:00.000+00:00Lovely post James, it seemed very heartfelt.I shou...Lovely post James, it seemed very heartfelt.<BR/><BR/>I should think that the mind's ability to delude itself is the only reason some of us survive at all.<BR/><BR/>It is a sad truth that a lie in the beginning, be it big or small or a mere omission, will eventually come back and bite you in the ass at a later date.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05220132360280528479noreply@blogger.com