Lord T focuses on an issue affecting us all:
It seems that the recession is hitting really hard. At home the amount of junk mail I get through the post has doubled over the last few months. Items from the general junk mail suppliers is pretty constant but the amount from people I have had some dealings with has increased significantly.
In addition I have received a cold call every night for the last week. Most were the usual cold callers but again two were from companies I had dealt with in the past that I had not spoken to for a while and I’m not convinced I gave them my number in the first place. Data miners, Grrr.
There are two approaches we can take. One is to bring in super-improved spam filters and pay for expensive software to gird our blogloins with the armour of computer-slowing technology ... or two, we can cease to worry about it.
It's not what the issue is but how you feel about it that counts.
Thus, when Mrs. Susan whoever opens with, "Dearly Beloved," from her home in Nigeria or when the British Tobacco Lottery tells me I've won a million pounds and all I have to do is claim it by giving my bank details or when someone sends "κάτι που γράφεται στα ελληνικά", then it just goes straight to the bin and never gets a second thought.
Paraphrasing the truisms of Dr Phil again, the trick is not to let anyone else impose his/her reality or constructs on you. When someone says he/she feels betrayed by you, that is his/her construct. When someone appeals to your compassion or greed in a scam, that's his/her problem ... unless you click on it.
I will not be hustled or bullied into doing anything I don't want. I will not feel remorse for something I never did - there's enough of that for things I actually did do - and above all, I will not be told how to think.
This extends even to the telephone. Why should I answer it? Why? It is an imperiously toned command to drop what I'm doing with someone I really do wish to be with and attend to something I have neither solicited nor do I particularly want.
This is where answer machines or services are good. If it is a worthy person who phoned, then naturally you'll phone back as quickly as possible or if you can see the name in the display, then you will interrupt your doings and answer it.
But there is no automatic obligation I feel to answer a phone or a knock on the door.
One consequence of this seemingly selfish policy is peace of mind. Peace of mind leads to calm and to feelings of well-being. Feelings of well-being brush off onto others we have contact with and inevitably lead to a pleasant time for all.